Battles

"Everyone's fighting a battle of their own." I never understood what it meant. Until today.
I never really understood because some people seem to live a perfect life. All smiles. Perfect family. Perfect job. Always cheery. Always kind. Until I saw myself in the mirror recently.
Always smiling, always strong, always trying to keep everyone together...
When I am the one who is falling apart inside. Bit by bit.
Don't ask me why. Because I can't tell you why. And even I do, you wouldn't understand.

But like everyone else, I'm fighting my battle. And I'm still fighting. I'm not giving up.
There is not a place where His grace is not sufficient for me. And I hang on to that. :)

Love,

Hope VS Expectations

I was talking to my cousin that day, and my cousin mentioned this: 

"Every time I put my hopes up, I get disappointed at the end."

I replied immediately, that Hope doesn't disappoint. Expectation does. :)

I've not lived as long as a 50 or 60 year old has. I'm not as wise as an owl either. But I've been through enough, to be able to differentiate the two. :)

Expectations.

They are usually unhealthy. Why..? 

Because in your mind, you have an idea of how it's supposed to be. Based on your own opinion, you picture it. And because of that, many times, we box God up. We think that, this is how God is gonna do it, this is how God is gonna make it work for me. It has to be this, because it's how I like it.

Expectations are usually conditional too. It has to be like that, if not I'll be unhappy. And before you realized, it's all about me, me and me.

It becomes selfish. And when on earth do you ever see selfishness together with happiness...? Never.

And when that something that is expected doesn't come through, you feel like it's the end of the world.

William Shakespeare was right - Expectations is the root of all heartaches.

But when Hope steps in, it's a whole different story. :) 

Jeremiah 29:11 says,
"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

With Hope, you know there is a future. Despite how crushed and broken your dreams are, Hope keeps you moving forward. Because there is a better future. One only God knows. For He has plans to prosper you and not to harm you. There is something ahead of you that is worth fighting and keep living for.
Hope, keeps you alive. :)

Love,

Kryptonite

I wish it didn't have to be this way.
It's sad how you were once my best friend,
but now you're like toxic in my blood stream.
I've had enough of your hurtful words.
And I hate how I always feel so inadequate, stupid, crushed, weak and low
when I'm around you.

I don't deny my mistakes.
For all I've wronged you, please do forgive me.
But I'm walking towards the sun now.
Like how Superman flies towards the sun to increase his power.
I just need to find, the better part of me.

"It may sound absurd, but don't be naive,
Even heroes have the right to bleed.
I may be disturbed but won't you concede,
Even heroes have the right to dream.
It's not easy to be me." - Superman, Five for Fighting

Picture taken from http://pichost.me/1647834/

Yours,

Happy Birthday, Super E!

"I am 16, going on 17... " - Sound of Music
Can't believe the last time I am "qualified" to sing this song was 10 years ago.
10 years?!?!?!?! asdfghjkl@#$%^&*()+-?! How can 10 years just pass by like that?!?!
How can?!?!

Haih.
"Yan sang yao gei tor gor sap nin?" They were right. How many 10 years does one have?
But thank God, I know I am making the most of my everyday. =)

So yes! My birthday.
People: "How does it feel turning 27?"
Me: "Depressing.".
HAHAHA.

Once again, I'm thankful for great people around me even as I face this depressing fact that I am getting further away from being 17. Lol. =) 

Shawn was in town during my birthday weekend. =) He wanted to bring me to some place nice and quiet, but there was just no time. It was floorball, floorball, floorball. 

Floorball on Saturday; floorball on Sunday. There goes my birthday. 

Haha. Kidding. But I really need to thank Shawn for patiently waiting for me the whole Saturday. I did make it up to him by bringing him to his favorite laksa lemak. Hehehe.

He helped coach SWAT during our Sunday training; and after that, the girls gave me a small surprise. Simple and sweet. =) Thank you Lala, Rachel, Sarah, Xiew Mei, Lyndee, Jasmine!!!

[I look super tired here. Heh.]

DID YOU SEE THE LITTLE HEART ON MY CAKE?!? =D

Shawn gave me a bottle of Versace perfume. =) After dating for 3 years, he still doesn't know that I am allergic to perfume. HAHAHAHA. Omg. Captain Awesome indeed. Lol.

But it's okay. =) I too gave him so many undersize tshirts for his birthday/anniversary that made him look soooo gay.

 [My very first bottle of perfume. So girly. HAHA. Thanks Hun.]

 [Even Fatty knows how to admire Versace perfume! ;)]

Then my dad belanja me Lok Lok in Butterworth right after training. Ate so much I had diarrhea the next day. Zzz. Lol. Still... THANK YOU DADDEEE!!!

So yes. This very much sums up my simple yet memorable birthday. =)

I am not getting older. I am just becoming a classic. Hehehe.

*Thank you Jesus, for seeing me through all these years. =)*

Love,

Just Keep Swimming, Swimming, Swimming...

I can't swim front crawl for nuts. And that is basically the one reason (or excuse HEHE) I have been procrastinating when it comes to signing up for Triathlons. :) And I guess Jasmine (a good friend of mine who does Tri) got tired of my procrastination and signed me up for the upcoming Penang Tri in March. All expense paid. Shows how serious she is in kicking my butt out of my chair. :/

So... I went for my first front crawl swimming lesson yesterday. Coached by one of my floorball girls - Beverly and her lifeguard mom. Fuhhhhhh. It was tougher than I thought. My legs were tired from the kicks even after 500 meters. My two hands were not cooperating. And I felt suffocated 'cause I couldn't breathe well. Basically, I felt like crap. :( Haihhhhhhh. After 2 hours of lesson, I feel like giving up Tri. Haih.

But perhaps it's just the first lesson? It's always tougher in the beginning right..? I don't know la. I'm not afraid of water. But it's open water I'll be swimming in during Penang Tri. What if I got tired and drown? I can't stand and rest in open water like I do in the pool. I don't even know how many buoys there will be for resting. Okay. The more I think the more I feel like chickening out. -.-

Let's see what happens at the end of February okay..? I guess I can always swim breaststroke all the way. Hehehe. And end up kicking someone's head. Whooops. 

Oh yes. And I couldn't lift up my arm to wash my hair just now. My triceps.... I mean my tri-FATS are so sore that pulling a glass door open takes so much out of me.

Don't know to cry or laugh now. Haha.

Love,

Can Or Not...

Hello there! :) It's been a month. I've been busy. Really really busy. :) Work mostly. I usually set New Year Resolutions but since the new year until now, I didn't really have time to think it through. Heh. Perhaps I should. And instead of making 30 resolutions, I should just focus on 10-15, and make it happen. :)

But as I plan ahead and think of all the things I need to do in 2014, I can't help but feel stressed.

Here's a list of things I need to do/manage within the first half year of 2014:
1. Sales sales sales. Almost got a heart attack when I saw my annual sales target.
2. Penang Women's Floorball League is starting this Saturday.
3. Penang Triathlon (23rd March 2014). Olympic distance 1.5+40+10. Kill me already.
4. Future planning. It's a mixed feeling of fear and excitement.
5. Bring my floorball girls down to Singapore for tournament/ friendly.
6. Prepare the ladies state team for Merdeka Cup.

6 is enough for now. Wanna cry liao. Hahaha. I don't dread all the above. In fact, I'm really excited about all of them. But there's always this slight doubt and fear bah. It makes me wonder if I really can handle all these. #gottahavefaith :)

Turning 27 in a month's time. :( Don't want can ah...? Don't want.

Random Kindness...?

Fed a homeless man today. The Bible was right. It is more blessed to give than to receive. :)

I came out from my customer's clinic, feeling hungry. And when I drove pass this old Indian uncle who was sleeping by the road side, I was thinking to myself: "He must be even more hungry than me." 

So I drove to the closest halal food stall, got a pack of chicken rice, and drove back to where he was sleeping. I left the pack of rice there while he was still asleep. So I really hope he gets it. :/

And I hope I was able to make his day a little better. Even if it was just for that day.

Love,

Quiet Times

I'm home alone tonight. Something I really needed.
Away from the voices, noises. It's just me and the four walls.
Something I learn to appreciate more now.

It's sad to know that certain dreams will never come true.
But hope allows new dreams to be made. =)
"Shattered dreams are a prelude to joy. Always."
I choose to believe.
And I choose to say:
"Dare to trust an unknown future in a known God."

Mid year madness

Can't believe half a year has passed by so quickly and we're already in the 2nd half of 2013.
Am I the only one who feels that time seems to pass quicker as age increases..? =(

June, July - They've been crazy months. Busy busy busy. Mostly due to work and floorball la. With Penang Floorball League going on, and never ending work... Arghhh. Being a grown up sucks. Haha. =P

So, here's some updates about me to bore you people. Hehe. Let's start off with..... Floorball?! =)

ITE Singapore came down to Penang and requested to play against us for 3 consecutive evenings, so we obliged and gave them some sweet and sour memories. It was a mix team game, and to be honest, I didn't really pay much attention to the guys. Was busy watching and taking care of ma chicks. ;)

I think Penang girls played really well against the ITE girls, to the extend we didn't bother about the scores. It was about playing a good, tactical, tight game. There are still much space for improvement, but I am really proud and glad to see how they've grown and improved within this year, especially those who have been attending SDT regularly like Ling Ling, Yen Yen, Naomi...And also the old birds like Nat, Lala, Pei Yi and Winnie. =) Proud of you girls. Really.

And about the sour memory part..... it was when our girls injured one of ITE's on the very first day of game. Her arm was bandaged, and had to sit out for the next 2 days. Poor thing. It was my first time seeing Penang girls injuring others. Haha. 'Cause usually we are the victims. =.="

[With one of the ITE boys, Ihsan. 

Who apparently is Travis's teammate. Haha. Small world.]

[Ling Ling & me]

[ITE girl. Sorry ah. I didn't get her name.]

[Everybody say cheeeeeeeesssseeeee!!!]

Penang Floorball League has finally come to an end last Saturday. It was a tough year for PFA because we had a lot issues with this year's league, mainly due to unavailability of court. Causing us to drag the league to the 2nd half of the year, which is no good 'cause alot of students are having their exams very soon. Sigh.

But I'm glad it's done and over with. =) And here's some picture of my adorable teammates: Spearhead and Contact girls. =)

[Eeleen's constipation face: Snap shot 1]

Just in case you're wondering, I am holding Nat's burger. She forced me to. =P

[Eeleen's constipation face: Snap shot 2]

My mom was right. I can never put on a proper face for pictures. =D

 [With the legendary goalkeeper - Sharron. Always an All Star in my heart]

[Spearhead: 1st Runner up for Women's Division]

 [Contact minions: 2nd Runner up for Division 2]

Penny, Sophia, Eeleen, Serene, Cathrina, Sheryn =)

And lastly, not forgetting my Geng Roti Tisu girls =)

[Cuteness Maximus!!]

It'll be a better year next year. =) Til then, it's time to deal with my dilemma.
Will tell you more once I get it sorted out.
P/s: All photos credited to Serene, Sheryn, Ling Ling. Thank you.

Love,

Man of Steel: Superman

I was never a fan of Superman, though he was the very first superhero I knew back then when I was a kid. To me, he was just another superhero, like green lantern or wolverine. He was no where close to my heart, no where close to Spiderman. =) Maybe because he was every other kid's favorite superhero so I didn't want to be like the rest. Haha. Plus, Superman always has this weird curly hair on his forehead.. Totally minus marks. ;)

But after watching the recent Man of Steel and reading up a little about his background (I know, I make it sound like he's a real person), I realize how great a superhero he is, and yet so humble and so human. What amazes me most about him is his character. Do you know that Superman is so great and powerful, that trying to be normal was very hard for him? If you've watched the movie it would be easier for you to relate. Imagine the patience, tolerance and humility he possess. If I had such power and someone bullied me, I would have use my laser eye and carved the word "STUPID" on his forehead. *I'm glad I don't possess any super powers*. Hehe.

Some people said that his biggest weakness is his kindness. Do you know that Superman doesn't kill..? Well eventually he did BUT MY POINT IS... No matter how bad a villain you are, he gives you 2nd chances. How many of us, if we were to be superheroes, are able to do that..? To show such kindness, such grace and such forgiveness...? So I think being "soft" and kind isn't his weakness, I personally think it just makes him a better superhero than anyone.

Come to think of it, Superman reminds me so much about Jesus. I wonder if the creators of Superman were christians. Haha.

Man of Steel:
Ratings: 4.5 /5

A must watch. Not just for the action scenes or Henry Cavill's hairy, muscular chest; but to search for the superhero in you.

Sometimes, a little mixture of patience, tolerance, humility and kindness goes a long way. =)

Humble Beginnings

No one is born great. We all start somewhere.

No matter how well you do today, no matter how successful you are, never ever forget your humble beginnings. 

I almost forgotten mine. And God had to remind me to remember it, the hard way. And mannnn, it hurts. But I know it was because He loves me. If God stops dealing with you and your mess, something is really wrong and you should be worried.

Sometimes we get so caught up with our own success that we forgotten that there is a thing called Blessing. We thought that we are the ones who work our way up; we thought success comes from our own effort; we look at our hands and tell ourselves, it is us who did it on our own.

That is the moment when pride takes over, and we lose our humility. And when you think so highly of yourself, do you really think there will be any room left for you to remember where it all began?

Don't repeat the same mistake I made a year ago. Remember your humble beginnings, and it will lead you somewhere extraordinary.

No one is born great. We are all start somewhere. Remember. =)

Love,

*Wrote this when I'm really sleepy. Sorry if it doesn't make any sense. Haha.Goodnight peeps. Zzzzzz...*

Birthday Blues

I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Another 7 hours and I'll be a year older already. It feels.......
Stressful.
Instead of feeling excited, happy, etc.. I'm feeling stressful. Pfffft. Is there something wrong with me..? Sometimes, it's just so hard juggling between being who I am, and trying to meet everyone else's expectations of me. Sigh.
But I am not blind. I am grateful for all the things God has bless me with. No doubt in that. And for the times He said "No" to me. He is never early, never late, but always on time. I have my hopes, dreams, and plans, but for all those that has yet to come through, maybe it's just not the right time yet.
So til then, gonna keep my hopes up. And be happy and strong, no matter what comes my way.
*Tick tock... Tick Tock...* Counting the seconds... =]

When I was a Kid... #003

... I used to sit in front of the TV and talked to the news anchor.
'Cause they seem like they were talking to me, so I replied back. But they never really listened to me. They just keep talking and talking.

When I was a Kid... #002

... I wanted to be a firewoman. But being such a klutz, I thank God I am not one now.
I would have either burn myself to death, or tripped on some burning wood and cause the whole house to collapse and burn down quicker. Gah.

When I was a Kid... #001

... I actually thought aeroplanes dump or unload human sh*t and pee into the ocean when they fly across it.
But grew up to realize that by doing so, humans would be eating fish and prawns and clamps that eat human sh*t and pee. Errrr... Thank goodness my thoughts never came true.

Pet Peeves

I'm not the kind of person who gets annoyed over simple things. For example, some would curse their way through a traffic jam; but for me, I would just take the time to look at things around me that I usually don't have the time for; or stare at the neighbouring driver and try to guess which radio station is he/she listening to if he/she was singing along with the song played. 

BUT..there are certain people or things that just simple press on my hot button. And trust me, you won't like me when I am angry. Grrrr.

1. People who sit behind me in a cinema and can't keep their legs still.
I hate it when people kick my chair while I'm watching a movie. Or when they shake their legs, turning my chair into a vibrating massage chair. Pffft.

Annoyed level: 7/10

2. Waiters (especially those taking orders) who don't smile.
You may have a bad day, but that doesn't give you the permission to be rude to your customers. A smile doesn't costs you anything, probably just some energy needed to curve up that lips and show your teeth. I've been a waitress many many times, trust me, a smile goes a long way. And it could even earn you big tips. So come on, don't be stingy with that smile. =)

Annoyed level: 8/10

3. The word "Whatever".
I will slap the person.
Annoyed level: 9/10

4. Drivers/motorcyclists who almost caused you an accident, but they stare at you as if it's your fault.
!@#$%^&!!! I may drive a small car but I know my undang-undang okay..
Annoyed level: 9/10

5. People who curse like nobody's business and think it's cool.
You are given a mouth for a reason. And I'm sure it's not for that purpose. So hold your tongue. Whatever you say on earth, is sealed in heaven. Be wise.
Annoyed level: 7/10

6. Yawning loudly and not closing the mouth.
Especially if one is in a meeting/church service/conference.
Imagine yourself talking on the stage and someone yawns loudly with the mouth wide open, right in your face. I think it's really disrespectful. So please people.....
Annoyed level: 7/10

7. Someone who says "No laaa" to everything I say and gives their point of view ALL THE TIME.

I may not be right everytime, but I can't be that wrong all the time. Maybe you can try to consider that there's a possibility that things I say makes sense too...? =(
Annoyed level: 8/10

8. Men who ogle or whistle at women walking down the street. Or when they go: "Ah moi...."

I get that very often when I work. And I really x1000000000000000000000000000 hate it. Sigh. Leave us ladies alone. Ughhhhh.

Annoyed level: 10/10

9. Screaming kids in public.
If it's a baby, I understand. They can't help it. But if the kid is 5 and above, and still yelling like they own the world............. They'll get it if he/she was my kid.
Annoyed level: 8/10

10. Finding peas-carrot-corn in my fried rice.
Those of you who know me well enough should know that I hate bean sprouts in my noodles. But what's worse than that is finding the "3 musketeers" in my fried rice. Or them being a side dish in western food.
When that happens, you'd see me picking out my peas-carrot-corn. Hehe.
Annoyed level: 6/10

So, what annoys you? =) My piece of advice: Just be patient and endure with it. If you die-die also have to point it out to the person that you're annoyed by his/her actions, be gentle when you do it. ;)

2013 New Year's Resolution =)

I make New Year's Resolutions for myself every year. And whether or not I finish them is another thing. Hehehe. But to me, to have a list of them, is the beginning of a great start. ;) I hope it's still not too late for 2013's Resolution. It's still January maaa... And to be honest, I think I did fairly well achieving last year's resolution. Except for the part where I'm supposed to keep my body fat % below 18%. BIG FAT failure. Sigh. But I'm gonna try again this year!!! :)

So here goes my list:
1. Hit my sales target and improve overall job performance = sell more drugs. Legally. ;)
2. Improve my daily walk with God.
3. Run at least 2 marathons, with the 2nd marathon within 2 hrs 20 mins.
3. Take part in one triathlon. Whatever the distance or time may be.
4. Go on a vacation. Like a really, really relaxing one. No rushing here and there. No hardcore shopping. One that just allows me to sit there, stare at the beautiful sky or some awesome scenery and day dream about anything I want.
5. Tone up my body. Improve heart rate.
6. Go for blood test. *Digging my own grave*
7. Be true and honest to myself.
8. Be attentive and really listen when others are talking. 
9. Blog more often!!
10. Be happy and contented at how I look in front of the mirror even when I'm without make up.
11. Get out of debt. CC debt = GG. Gone game.
12. Use my manners. "Thank you", "sorry", "please", even when others don't do it or deserve it. Someone has to be the better person. I'll start with me.
13. Speak verbally more. I've always been a texting kinda person. I guess it's because I'm not confident speaking in English, thus I tend to text more. But this needs a change.
14. Spend less time on the phone/ipad/computer. We humans are losing the beautiful art of face to face communication. And that is just plain sad. 
That day I left my phone at home for a whole 4 hours, and I realize, I had more time to spend with people around me, talking and laughing. And it also made me realize, that I can actually live without my phone.
15. Spend more time with my family. They won't be here forever.
16. Learn to forgive easily, and enjoy life more.
17. Go for swimming lessons. Heh.
18. Do more recycling. SAVE THE EARTH!!!
19. Save up more. By starting to clear my debts. Sigh.
20. Help those in need.
21. Smile more. And be truly happy.
22. Recognize and appreciate those who truly love and care about me. For those of you whom always seem too busy for me...especially to even reply a text... I'm sorry. My life is short too. I'd rather spend it appreciating those who appreciate my company too.
23. Oh!!! Oh!!! To keep my body fat % below 18%. Hehe.
24. Eat more vegetables and bean sprout.
25. Learn to prioritize. Decide on what's important Eeleen, you're not Super Girl.
26. Be teachable, humble and always gentle.
27. Meet more new people.
28. Don't judge. Be more accepting of others.
29. Cut my hair short.
30. Learn to let go of the past.

All the best, Eeleen. *Fingers cross* =)

Clenched Teeth, Clenched fists

I wished I could say that my new year started off with a bang. But sadly, it has been a bumpy ride ever since the first day of 2013. I really wanted to tell you my story, but after thinking through twice, I don't think it's too appropriate to write out my situation here, as I don't want my readers to be judging the people around me. Or misunderstand my situation. And most importantly, I don't want to say things that I can't take back, or hurt people with my words.

Sometimes I really wonder if God truly understands. 'Cause if He does, why does He allow anyone, allow me to go through this storm and feel so helpless, discouraged, and lonely..? Sigh. 

But of course He does. I'm sure Jesus felt the same the night before He was crucified. Helpless and lonely. Of course He does understand. 

Watched 7 pounds just now in the evening, and gave myself a reason to cry. Guess all I needed was someone to talk to; someone who understands. Someone who'd just come over and give me a hug, and say: "This is just temporary. It'll all be okay." But tonight, even those whom I thought cared about me most, are just too busy for me.

I will be okay. There are others in way more difficult situations than I am. I shouldn't be complaining here. So yes. I am gonna stop feeling sorry for myself and pick up my baton and continue running.

Come what may, I'm just gonna clenched my teeth and fists, and go against this storm.
Because I know, every storm runs out of rain. 

Flashback (Part 2)

Spent New Year's Eve in church, counting down to 2013. :)

I was asked to help out in the translation of testimonies from English to Hokkien. And no, my Hokkien is far from good. Not even close to average. And as I was doing it, it reminded me of how good and faithful God has been, is and will always be. I couldn't be more blessed to be in the house of the Lord on the very last day of 2012, together with people I've known my whole life. Literally my whole life. Both family and friends. :)

[Childhood besties]

 

[woanseineeleentheresa]

 

And on New Year's day when everybody's enjoying sleeping in late, i woke up at 6:45am to go for a run and ride. Yes I am crazy that way. But sadly, there was a very bad pain in my right abdomen muscles (close to the waist). The pain was so bad I couldn't even run for 100 meters. :( Does anybody experience the same kind of pain? I don't know how it came about, and is so bad that when you sneeze, you just feel like passing out. Serious. So I ended up cycling which doesn't require me to move my abdomen muscles too much.

[Dreamer]

Year 2012 has been a really, really tough year. A year of change, a year of breaking, a year of moulding, a year of realization, a year of finding closure for certain things. And to be honest, it scares me just by thinking about 2013. That, I'll share more in another post. But I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has encouraged me, loved me, hurt me, break me, pissed me off, prayed for me, especially to the one who has always think that I'm an All-star (you know who you are)... Thank you. :) And to the Big Guy up there who has always been sheltering me with His loving hands, thank you. I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for You. Time to let 2012 go, and move on to a new year. It's scary, but I know it's gonna be okay. 

It will be. 

Comfort Zone vs Struggling

Everybody enjoys being comfortable. A comfortable seat, comfortable working environment, comfortable bed. Ahhhhh... Who doesn't want right? ;)

But the truth is, being too comfortable isn't gonna do us any good. Comfort zone, is one of the most dangerous places a person can be in, especially if one doesn't notice it.

When we're in our comfort zone, we don't strive to be better. Our thoughts, our efforts, our character is not being challenged. Our faith cannot be stretched. We become so well-fixed that we tend to stay at that moment, not wanting to move forward.

Consequences?

We think we're good enough. We think we're the best.

When someone asks us to do something beyond the ordinary, we complaint;

When someone else comes up with a better idea, we turn it down immediately without thinking it through, just because we feel uncomfortable about it.

And most of all, when we become too comfortable in our own comfort zone, we forget about God; the one who provides us all we need, from the daily meals on our table, to the safety of our home and loved ones.

So I always pray, that my life would not be a bed of roses. 'Cause I don't want to sink into my comfort zone. I don't want to forget about the wonderful hands that fed me and protected me. 

It doesn't matter it life gets a lil' rough at times, or if it bring a little discomfort.

Because when I struggle, I remember of the Lord.

I remember that God is in control, no matter how bad the situation is.

I remember how to hold on to my faith in Jesus during hard times, and I remember where my help comes from.

And because even when I struggle, I know that His grace and mercy is sufficient for me to carry me through.

So my question to you today is, "Are you in your comfort zone?". Time to get out of it.

"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. " -Neale Walsh

Picture taken from http://naturalhorselover.blogspot.com/2011/03/few-insights-based-on-coaching.html